You must have been taught in schools to keep an open mind and not judge anybody. But all these teachings are thrown down the drain when it comes to arranged marriage.
So, just like every other family, our families too told us to talk to each other every day and judge!
And the game began.
We used to talk everyday for hours on calls. I was practically living in India but in the Canadian time zone.
Although I wasn’t keeping scored but if you really insist, I could lay it down for you.
So, here is how I judged:
Similarity in choices – 0
Compatibility – 0
Sense of humor – 1ish maybe?
He might have shitty scores in the above areas but when it comes to the kind of human being he is, he is a chef’s kiss 10.
He might not like my favorite Netflix series but is kind enough to endure the show for me.
He might not understand why my emotions suddenly change, but he is caring and sensitive enough to try to understand my perspective and value it.
I came to realize that keeping scores does not matter. What matters is a partner who is patient enough to let you take your time and will walk at the same pace as you even if it means losing the game.
So just like that, in 10 days, I was sure about him.